The Regenerative Parent Community
Foundational Role in Building a Society That Works
Parenting is a foundational process from which we create the basis for societies to emerge, endure, or evolve.
Being a foundational role in society, how we parent impacts not only our children and families, but our communities, societies, and the broader living systems that enfold us. Announcing an on-going community to advance parenting capability.
Parenting is highly rewarding. It is also often really difficult.
It is really difficult even with two parents working together, and often that is not the case. Often, it means redefining family as well. From open adoption families, blended families, single parent (for many reasons), foster parents, step parents, grandparents parenting grandchildren and teachers who end up playing a parenting role to some children. And there are many other roles.
“I really thought that being a dad was going to be easy for me. But I found myself in a situation that I wasn’t prepared for. This work has really helped me move past that. It gave me an anchor.” – David, parent of a transgender child; member of the Regenerative Parent Community
In many cultures, parenting is seen as a community endeavor
with extended families and other member of the tribe and social networks playing a core role. Today, families are splintered if not by space and time, by ideology. Parenting with a regenerative philosophy requires working in a community committed to learning and growing together, having others with whom we can share, develop ourselves, as well as test and reflect.
Purpose of The Regenerative Parenting Community
This community, meeting online and in local groups, will develop thinking and practices regarding the meaning of parenting for a regenerative society, engaging with a regenerative approach, alone and with others. We will work together, in a regenerative live online workshop format, to evolve individual, family and collective capacity to understand, and be resources to one another in developing regenerative persons, families and social systems.
“In a short period of time, this practice really has transformed one of the most difficult periods my daughter and I have experienced together. I’ve since gained a perspective that helps me see differently so that I can respond in ways that really do feel whole and authentic.” – Rachel Kastner, Member The Regenerative Parent Community
Who is this community for?
It is for anyone who works in a sustaining parenting role, from pre-school through college. You are engaged in and supporting the maturation of a young person or persons, working within the context of a family. (We don’t limit the role of parent to birth parents. Any of us who interact with children have opportunities to provide good parenting if we know it’s meaning and purpose and if we are willing to be generous with our time and energy toward the young people in our lives.)
Framework for the community
We see parenting as a journey with no defined path, that is greatly enabled through community in which to explore our role as parents in a structured way and evolve ourselves and our parenting. Through this community we gain instruments and practices that let us move our choices and outcomes.
We Work With:
- Living Systems Frameworks to understand different world-views and paradigms of parenting.You can use the framework to examine your own beliefs and how you feel about your discoveries. Including:
- Having multiple parenting members who are able to explore their shared and conflicting world views, how they got there and what they want to do about that going forward.
- Examining how you were raised and the challenges in shifting toward where you want to go to from where you are now.
- Learning how to dialogue when conflicting worldview or paradigms are at play between parenting partners, within extended families and within ourselves.
“This community has shifted my patterns. I am beginning to understand the essence of the parenting role which allowed me to let go of unnecessary constraints to be present with this learning experience, which in turn provided the space for my daughter to determine her own process of response to a situation and to better support each other.”– Anastasia Smith, member The Regenerative Parent Project
- Essence of Parenting from a Regenerative perspective,
exploring how it fits your values and beliefs. Using personal assessment instruments, understanding emerges and new principles arise.
- A regenerative set of principles drawn from Living Systems understanding, exploring their relationship to parenting Living System understanding – found in indigenous communities, ecosystem principles, and common threads of ancient spiritual traditions from around the world – shifts parenting. Exploring these principles in our parenting we develop understanding.
We work to build capacity:
- to evaluate how we are doing and where our obstacles typically show up.
- to be increasingly self-directed, self-managing, self-correcting without external input from others.
- to engage others as thinking partners and developmental resources.
- To develop dialogue when conflicting worldview or paradigms are at play between parenting partners, within extended families and within ourselves.
What it is NOT
- It is not therapy or a parenting course with a proscribed set of behaviors to adopt, although, you may develop your own path and set of behaviors using some of what you learn.
- It is not a religiously revealed path for how to raise children to meet a specific Teacher’s words, although you may connect it into and test it with your faith and find it resonates and is useful.
- It is not a facilitated or mediation effort to help parents who are in conflict, although it may give you practices to reconcile and reimagine your lives.
What it IS!
- An education and reflection community with different members becoming resources to one another in self- development.
- A way of approaching parenting in which personal growth becomes a more intentional aspect of parenting.
- A structured series designed to enable you to understand your own approach to parenting and apply a regenerative approach. You have the final say on what seems right and what you will pursue.
- A way to build local communities to foster regenerative practices in parenting.
“This goes so far beyond fragmentary parenting models that focus on behavior.. It helps me to engage with my whole child, my whole self, my whole partner, and potentially the whole world differently. I now see how parents are uniquely positioned to shape the consciousness and beliefs of the next generation.”
– Lily Holllister, Member of The Regenerative Parent Community
How to Join
Planning for this community is still in the works!
Carol Sanford and Jennifer Atlee
Carol is a Regenerative Life educator on the philosophy, practices and paradigm of Regeneration. She is a mother, grandmother and alternative mother by choice. She was the Producer, curriculum developer, TV anchor of Healthy Family Dynamics on community stations in WA. Her family includes, children by birth and marriage, parenting teens who became homeless, openly-adopted grandchild, open family connections of adopted child, gay families, and blended families. She is also Senior Fellow of Social Innovation with Babson College Lewis Center.
Jennifer supports and enables regenerative resource flows across sectors via research, writing, strategy, facilitation and community organizing. Jennifer is a designer, gardener, and mother of a vibrant 7-year-old. She is actively working to shift her own parenting and engage her extended family community in regenerative practices in their collective parenting.